Responding to a Controlling Spirit
A person under the influence of a controlling spirit will love you only to the extent that you’re willing to be controlled by them. If a person will only love you when you are like them, when you agree with them, or when you’re willing to follow after and praise them, this person is under the influence of a controlling spirit.
You can see how this spirit operates in the way those who are under its influence try to control the thoughts and behavior of others. The goal is to create uniform thinking and behavior. Non-compliance is meet with ridicule, punishment or shame. A person under the influence of a controlling spirit will discredit and slander others in an attempt to create fear so people will conform to their expectations.
A controlling spirit will gather others against you. By spreading gossip about others, it polarizes and splits people into smaller and smaller groups that hold enmity toward each other. The controlling spirit is destructive in all that it does and it will stop at nothing to get its way.
The shield that guards our hearts against the work of such spirits is the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Our defense against this spirit is cultivating love, joy, peace, goodness, kindness, gentleness, long-suffering and self-control.
Since the goal of a controlling spirit is to manipulate people into following prescribed patterns of thoughts and behavior, the best way to defeat this spirit is to demonstrate freedom as it is expressed through unconditional love.