5 Easy Steps to Praying in Tongues
My Guest Blogger today is Max Pool. who shares a simple strategy for learning to praying in tongues.
Misunderstandings About Praying In Tongues
For many people searching to learn the “how to” speak in tongues, their search ends in frustration. Buried by a volume of books, videos, and articles on the “why” of tongues, it can be hard to find the actions to start praying in tongues.
To add complications, there are many churches that don’t support this gift. Some refuse to acknowledge it, others reject it as demonic, or the church simply doesn’t have the pastoral staff to nurture it.
I know I felt all of these frustrations during my journey towards a deeper prayer life.
You may be stuck on one or more of these crossroads as well, and if that’s the case this article on how to pray in tongues for you. This article does not build a case to convince you on the biblical reasoning or benefits of prayer in tongues (there are a lot of great books by authors like Dave Roberson), but instead to provide you with very real and practical steps to jump start your ability to receive the gift of tongues.
So let’s get started…
Get Distraction Free
If there is one thing that will kill your ability to start receiving this gift it’s being distracted as you learn. Distraction can come in many forms: rambunctious children, fear of embarrassment, multi-tasking, and even the sound of your own voice.
Remember that you are trying to remove all distractions, so when you start trying to pray in tongues find a quiet place that you can be alone to sit (or lay) for an hour. It was during lunchtime in my car with the seat reclined that I personally found initial comfort; however, I found my own voice to be very distracting, so I even went to the length of listening to gospel music with headphones.
The point is that this is a time of prayer, and you will need the same type of quiet isolation that your prayer time normally demands plus a little extra. If you are constantly looking to see who might be watching, getting interrupted, or are distracted you aren’t going to be able to listen to the cues given to you.
Start Trying
This step is the most obvious step, but it’s where most people go wrong – open your mouth. Start making syllables and word sounds. In short, start babbling like a baby. Start exercising your tongue and mind to produce random word parts.
Many people incorrectly believe that gifts from God are bestowed upon us all at once and in full and their inability to heal, prophesy, or speak in tongues is because God has not yet blessed them with the gift. As a result, they never step out in faith to try or they quit early, but this just is another example of the old saying “Jesus can’t take the wheel of a parked car”.
I love how Robert Morris of Gateway Church puts it so simply in this video (4:50):
Babies don’t start speaking fluently, and here is the amazing thing…we think it’s cute. It doesn’t bother us when our children mispronounce words. In the same way, so many people are afraid they aren’t going to do it right, but even if you don’t do it right your Father likes it. He will like that you are trying.
In the beginning, it will not be fluent. Most likely it will be very choppy, repetitive, and hard to resist your mind taking back control of your mouth. All of this is just fine as you are starting and you have to start somewhere.
Listen for Hints
Through practice, you will start to gain awareness of your prayer language, and you will start to notice repetition and a lack of diversity in the syllables/sounds you’re speaking. The few sounds you are able to make at first are those most natural to you, that is, the ones which flowed out of your spirit the easiest. Adding to your sound vocabulary is done through a discovery process that exists both internal and external.
External discovery would be seeing a sign, billboard, or word in your mind and wondering “Would this sound make sense if I prayed it?” I’ve linguistically dissected many words that I’ve seen while on prayer walks – some sounds worked, some didn’t. Don’t feel like you’re cheating though, you learn every day through external stimulus so don’t let this be any different.
Internal discovery would be listening for queues in your mind, queues that the Holy Spirit might be giving you. When I started, with my eyes closed, I would see word parts or names flash in front of my eyes. Following along with my mouth, I felt as if I was slowly being tutored to unglue my mouth.
To this day I still listen for those hints God hands out; whether it is a flash of a word part or name in my mind or a new sound that catches my ear.
Ask for Increased Faith
The truth is God has already given you many gifts, but will only give us an amount that our faith can handle. So this means for many of us, we must build up these gifts in a continuous cycle of action and faith. You act out of faith, your gift is strengthened, which results in increased faith for the next action. This cycle of action and faith is no different in learning how to pray in tongues.
However, sometimes amidst all the practice we just don’t feel powerful enough to break into the next level. When that happens, stop attempting to pray in tongues and ask the Father (in your native language) for more faith. It really is that easy! Depend on God to help you increase your faith in praying with the Holy Spirit, and trust that the Father will remove any barriers in your way.
When I began, many of my first attempts were filled with me repeating “Lord increase my faith” over and over again. You need God’s power to pray in tongues, so it’s alright to drop the “do it on my own strength” ego and ask for help on breaking through.
Don’t Over Think It
Doubt cripples faith, so quit worrying about the details. The whole gift of praying in tongues is to give God your tongue and time so your spirit can be built up. Worrying about your technique of a God-given gift, where the Holy Spirit prays with you, where spoken words aren’t understood…you get my point, worrying is meaningless and is going to do nothing but throw you off track.
My prayer language is simple and vowel heavy. I’ve tried working in complex sounds such as “x” and “ing”, but it physically doesn’t come out of my mouth when I’m in prayer – so I’m not going to force it!
In the beginning, everything seems forced, but in a few days, you will be able to tell what fits and what doesn’t. I promise there will be a day where it all comes out like a flood and you will finally think “I’m doing it! I’m praying in tongues!” In that moment all your previous worries will dissolve and your faith in this gift will be forever changed.
We are called to pray with our minds as well as with our spirits, and starting to pray with the Holy Spirit really is as easy as the above steps. If you’re serious about the edification process, add tongues into your prayer life. All it takes is a little practice and faith.
A very good well presented article
That is a very good tip about having to start in your fleah! My mom taught me to start with a song, singing the words then changing the syllables. Amazing grace, how sweet etc da tah ka ma Ki la ti dee. I knew my spirit took over when i was not thinking of the next syllable to sing. Then you will get to the point you don’t need to start with a song. I practiced the most while driving my car so I didn’t over think it. Great advice!
For many years, I’ve never progressed beyond 3 words that I say over and over. Nothing more seems to come out of my mouth. Do you think this is me hindering the Spirit or is that all He’s giving me. Would love to hear what you think.
Patricia –
Plateaus in anything can be frustrating, but it sounds like you have the will power of a saint – well done!
One possible way to view your blockage is purely physical, and one way to train new muscles is to *practice*. Practice is not prayer, and that is obvious since you are fully aware that you have taken the lead.
Let’s say one of your basic sounds is “ma”. Then simply practice by going through the alphabet in order: ba, ca, da, fa, ga…etc etc. Once you have unglued those sounds that feel like they might work, then switch to prayer using those new sounds. Some will work some won’t. Next experiment and practice with short vowel sounds, then long vowel sounds.
Getting hung up on linguistics can be a huge blockage – so start from scratch and start learning sounds again.
Another possibility may be spiritual. Prayer in tongues is meant to be an edification process, and personally when I began a huge release of sin and iniquity left me. As I prayed, sinful memories bubbled up into my memory, but I instantly felt the guilt and shame associated with these sins release.
My point is pray to be shown your iniquities and generational curses, and pray for them to be released. Pray to be given the tools to ask for forgiveness, and pray for faith. Tongues may come to you as a tool to break these chains, or you might be shown something to help you unlock your tongue.
Last, remember that God holds no good thing (Psalm 84:11). I firmly believe this to be true when it comes to this gift because tongues is a core tool for us to edify ourselves and the church.
Keep with it, *practice* more, and always trust God.
-Max
Max, I just now figured out how to find the original post with comments. Age 81 on the computer ain’t that easy!
I so appreciate your message and I will certainly give all your suggestions careful consideration. I’m excited to keep trying and hope the Holy Spirit guides me into learning to pray in tongues. Thank you so much for your kindness in helping me along!
Nice post! I, too, find the sound of my voice distracting. If I focus on something else, the flow of tongues is more free for me. My husband often prays in English while I pray in tongues, so I can focus on his voice while allowing myself to speak in tongues. Singing in tongues is even easier—especially if you like to sing!
fantastic blog. It really spoke to me and is very encouraging.
I was waiting for a baby to be born in the family. When that day finally came, I was asleep on the couch in my parents living room. I was 15 at the time. As I began to wake up and heard the news that the baby was born I thought to myself God bless this new baby and new life, take care of her etc. My father and the baby’s father were standing there and I wanted to share my thoughts with them so I opened my mouth and instead of the prayers I was thinking coming out something in a different language did. There was no practicing of syllables or meditating or anything else like that. I opened my mouth and began to speak in a language I didn’t understand but my mouth knew what it was doing, I didn’t know I was speaking in tounges at the time and only realized it years later. I remember looking down at my mouth in disbelief trying to understand what was happening. My father and his friend laughed really hard they thought I was still asleep. The words were perfectly formed and my mouth knew exactly what it was doing but it has never happened again. I have never found anyone else who has had the same experience and when I hear people try to form words using their own language it’s hard to believe that it comes from the Holy Spirit because I have heard the language o the Holy Spirit before and its something I will never forget.
A planted seed only sprouts when the soil and conditions are ready to produce good fruit.
Through Jesus Christ we all have the gift of heartfelt giving, but does that mean that the Holy Spirit makes the money jump out of our pocket into the offering plate? No, there needs to be a combination of acting through faith and our freewill to bring it into action.
Do gifts (like tongues) happen instantly? Sure do – I think it is awesome when it does! But there are many others that need to act in faith to see the rewards. PM prayed over hundreds of people before seeing healing. Vlymen prayed for a long time to see angles (discernment). Working towards preparing your “soil” does not disqualify or cheapen these gifts.
Bill Johnson puts it really well “God hides things to be found”. I would have to agree, sometimes He has us chase a goal because it is the journey that will benefit us the greatest.
Hi Laurie,
Had a similar experience in 2009. I was praying (in English) intently, really focused and out came my prayer language, flowing! I got so excited that I lost focus and haven’t been able to get it back (flowing) since. Just phrases here and there. The same thing happened to my aunt and she said she just kept praying and seeking the Lord and out they came again after years of asking. I’m not sure why it happens, but perhaps to minister to others who are in similar situations.
Thank you for sharing. There was no doubt about my language being tongues. It was miraculous.
Yes, Laurie, my experience was more similar to yours. In 1987 I had a incredibly supernatural experience with God but did not speak in another language. I began to call prayer lines all over the country asking for help to receive what I understood to be a gift. One evening after yet another call to the Richard Roberts prayer line without success I sat and cried, certain that I had in someway done something that somehow I had done something which disqualified me from receiving this gift, that somehow God did not love me as much as he did those who had received. As I sat alone, crying, all of a sudden from my belly welled up words, beautiful words. Full, complete sentences, in a language I’d never heard. I was first shocked. I stopped crying. I asked, Is this it God? Are these the tongues you speak of? Then laughter, supernatural laughter from deep within poured from my belly, a laughter I could not contain.
About a week after this event I shared my story with my sister who also wanted to receive this gift. I prayed for her and God filled her with tongues also. Since this time I have prayed for many believers who have also received this wonderful, edifying gift. Once I was in a church where LITERALLY EVERYONE in the church who desired the gift of the infilling of the Holy Spirit evidenced by tongues received! In all these cases the gift of tongues was immediate and full, no making up words or practicing syllables. This is my experience with the Holy Spirit.
That sounds exactly like what happened, I opened my mouth and out it came, no rehearsing or chanting or helping along, it was just there. Thank you for sharing your story,
Someone at churches prayed I’d receive the Holy Ghost with signs of speaking in tongues right after I got saved. I had no idea what it meant to speak in tongues but after they prayed they told me to open my mouth and let God use my tongue and when I opened my mouth… words/sounds came out. I pray in tongues often and everywhere. I’ve never found listening to my own voice disturbing or distracting since I’ve been hearing my own voice my whole life and I know I’m allowing God to speak through me and He can say whatever He wants to so I never even pay that much attention to what I’m saying. I have notice at times I seem to be repeating the same sounds but I always figured it was because God wanted to emphasize something, so I let Him and I don’t care how many times He wants to repeat it. I never once thought it was because I was stuck in my prayer language since I’ve never felt I had anything to do with my prayer language. All I am doing is allowing God to use me for His purpose in praying what He deams necessary at that moment and since I don’t know what I’m saying in the first place I haven’t felt a need to over think it. I don’t think our prayer language is a language like any other language that exists. In other words, I don’t think that every time I utter a certain sound it means a certain word because if it did, Satan would probably be able to figure out what God was having me pray and the whole point to praying in Tongues is so God can pray through us His perfect will and since the enemy also has no idea what I’m praying he can’t stand against it. In war we use spies to send secret messages back to headquarters and we on purpose don’t state it in a way that is obvious. We use a secret code that only we know. However a secret code can eventually be decoded and God doesn’t deal in secrets, He deals in mysteries, so I’ve always assumed my prayer language was a mystery to Satan as much as it is to me and God’s mystery as to what I’m saying can not be decoded (either by me or Satan) but can only be understood if God Himself gives the interpretation. So with that being said, even if it sounds as though I’m repeating the same thing over and over again, I might not be. For all I know, God could change the meaning of what I’m saying each and every time, since it’s His language. I of course have no idea if that is what He’s doing, or if, like I stated before, He personally wants to emphasize something and feels the need to speak it forth multiple times. All I’m doing is letting Him use my mouth to state what He wants and I never thought it was my job to care what I was saying but to trust Him to speak through me and to offer Him my mouth as often as I could think to do it. So I pray in tongues a lot while I’m at work, at the grocery store, while driving or planting flowers, etc. Some people might have a harder time letting go of the control of their tongue, and maybe they over analyze it way more than do, so I’m not saying that the advice already given is a wrong approach, all I’m stating is how it worked for me. I just open up my mouth and let God have His way with what comes out. I hope what I’ve said helps someone in just letting God use them as He sees fit.
I wanted to also state that some people think we are praying in a known language that we ourselves don’t know because the crowd that heard them speaking on the day of Pentecost heard the men speaking in their own language. Each person heard them in their native tongue and many people there spoke different languages from one another. So if each person heard what was being spoken in their own language it seems obvious to me that they were all “hearing an interpretation of what was being spoken” and not that the speaker was speaking their language! Cause I can’t speak several languages all at the same time. So if I’m speaking and one person hears me in Spanish, another in German, another in Italian and another in Greek… am I speaking 4 languages at once or am I speaking in an unknown tongue and God is allowing each of them to hear me in their own language so they can know what I’m praying? It seems real obvious to me that God is allowing them to receive the interpretation and not that I’m actually praying in their language.
New Christian here from Singapore. Was saved by Jesus during a demonic spiritual attack. An evangelist prayed and anoint the Holy Spirit in me, took me 5 to 10 mins of her praying to open my mind and heart to speak first time in tongues.
The first experience is whenever the demons attack me, the holy spirit will intercept and then my lips will tremble a little, teeth vibrate or shake a little and just pray automatically. Happens each time the demon tries to attack.
After this demon episode is gone. I tried to pray myself but it sounds fake and forced. So a pastor prayed for me and I just be able to donit instantly. For the next 3 days my lips and teeth have constant spells of wanting to pray in tongues. The natural urge.
Months of this without going to Church, i prayed myself it always sound made up or fake or like baby blabberings. However in Church when I felt the Holy spirit presence is high, my tongues became more vigorous and natural. But the limitations of the sounds r there. After many months I still unable to receive a break through.
Maybe i focus too much on the sounds rather than focussing on the Spirit and my heart.
Thanks to all for your comments, it really helped me to not only understand how to progress in tongues but to also know that I’m not alone in my experiences! I’ve been told it’s like a muscle that needs to be exercised so I shall continue to ‘practice’!!
This is wonderful I totally agree with the writer of this article. I just experienced it now as I come from that lonely room. Praise God!!!
I pray in tongues and I say about 9 syllables over and over again. Once I prayed about 7 to 9 hours straight with break for eating and I got an interpretation, I say to God, “I need You. I care for You. I love You.” I though how sweet is this message! I think that praying in tongues not only edifies us but also edifies God. We actually minister to Him!!! So awesome!!!
Praying in a tongue is a known language it’s a gift from the Spirit not something you can learn, it’s an instant thing to be spoken to unbelievers in there tongue, so then they can glorify God, praying, you must understand it, otherwise it’s unfruitful, speaking in a tongue, you must be able to interpret it or pray that someone else can, this is some of the body of Christ but someone has to interpret it. The Spirit of Christ Jesus. It’s to gloriGid not ourselves.
Thank you for helping other Christians to receive this wonderful gift.
Here you can also find 10 good reasons as an encouragement for speaking and praying in tongues: https://message-for-you.net/10-reasons-for-speaking-in-tongues/