Healing for Gender Confusion
This testimony of how God healed gender confusion was sent to me by my friend Rick Phillips.
This is a true story, shared by a woman who found inner healing during her journaling time, alone with the Lord. I’ve copied the journaling verbatim, as she shared it. It amazed me in that God did this for her, out of the blue.
She is the oldest child in a family of all girls. By her own admission, she was a tomboy, and recalls vying for dad’s attention by doing “boy stuff.” Dad was busy and active, the kind of guy that would get things done, and she was convinced his approval would come with her ability to fill the role of the son that he never had. It would be many years later that God would focus on this trait (and its underlying belief) and show her a “better way.”
Recently, she was sitting quietly, alone, journaling, when He spoke: “This morning I want you to address the part of you that despised your femininity.” Instantly, He had her stunned attention.
“It is not okay to dislike any part of you, and there is NO need to dislike any part of yourself because you are created in the likeness and image of God. When you see something, some aspect that you feel isn’t aligned with His image, ask for that to be brought into His likeness, His image, but don’t despise it, or put yourself down because of it.
“Sin disrupted My perfection in My created ones. Jesus paid the price and broke the power of sin. When a person accepts the gift of God’s forgiveness, their spirit once again enters that place of My perfection. From there, everything in a person can be restored to My likeness and image.
“Back to the garden, you have FULL potential to be glorious in the manner in which I created Adam and Eve. Do not look with limited expectation, look with FULL expectation. My glory transforms. You are being beautifully transformed. You will not be more accepted if you exhibit masculine traits, i.e., hard manual labor, physical strength, being “in charge”. Those are indicators that you have not accepted your identity.
“You, My dear, have always believed you were not enough because you were a girl and not a boy. You believed that if you could do everything that a boy could do, your dad would be happy with you and accept you. But that wasn’t the answer. You have always been accepted in Me, the Beloved, it has NEVER been on your own merit, or performance.
“You are accepted because I LOVE you. I made you in My likeness and image I planned for you to be a female from before the foundation of the world. I knew you and loved you. It is not by chance that you were born into your family. With Me nothing is by chance, everything is by Divine Design. You believed that to be accepted by your father that you needed to be a boy, you needed to be something you were not, and never could be. You felt this SO deeply that you couldn’t even entertain the thought of having a girl of your own. That is so sad.
“I’m going to heal that part of you now. Renounce the lie that to be of any value, to be accepted by your father, you had to be a boy.”
She began: “I renounce the lie that to be of value and to be accepted by my father, that I needed to be a boy. I replace it with the truth that God created me a female, and he has had a purpose for me from the foundation of the world.”
Replied the Holy Spirit, “In Me there is neither male nor female. I do not treasure one above the other. I treasure all. Do you see the teenager running into your core?”
“Yes, I do!”
“You never again need to wish you were not a female. You are free to enjoy all the beautiful, fancy, girly things that you have resisted or had withheld from you. You no longer have to fight for beautiful things or dismiss them. Rather, you can dream about beautiful girly/feminine things without apology.
“You do not have to vie for a place in your husband’s affections. Rest assured that you are the center of his affections. You do not have to vie for My affections because I have loved you with an everlasting love – it never ends. You don’t have to vie for your sons’ affections because no one EVER replaces a son’s affection for their mother. They might cover it, respond obstinately, or otherwise deny it – out of fear of appearing weak – but nothing replaces it.”
“Thank you, Lord, for healing that part of me! I love you!”
Beautiful testimony of healing.
This is beautiful!!!
Beautiful! This is so good to hear in this day and age and cultural shifts!
If we just took time to listen to the Holy Spirit our lives would be transformed. Great read.
Thank you for sharing. My daughter feels the same way… not really any gender and is now hanging with other transgenders. .I believe that her experiencing God’s love will change that. I’m paying for her to ho to Andrew Wommack”s bible college so she can get into the word and meet others who can show her love.
Hi Patty…I understand you. My 17 year old daughter is transgender male. Love is all I can do. And pray. They’re suffering from anxiety and depression and I’m sure that it stems from the violence they witnessed in their formative years. I meet their trans friends…all of whom are young teen girls identifying as male. I don’t know how long it will take for them to find Jesus but He is the healer and my prayer is for full restoration. I pray that your precious child experiences that same healing. God bless you with love and grace to walk with them
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Thanks David for sharing this. I’ll put this out on my social media channels.
Thank you, sir!
This article seems to be about confusion about gender confusion. I don’t think being a “tomboy” means that someone is confused about their gender. In addition, being male does not mean being only masculine and being female does not mean being only feminine. We have to embrace all of ourselves to show that we are truly made in God’s image.
I’m 50 and been a tomboy all my life…I’m not gender confused. I know I’m female & I’m not trans or gay but I don’t believe in sex. marriage or having kids (ewww). I’ve just always lived the way I want. And thankfully i had a christian mother who allowed me to be myself. She bought me whatever i wanted (boys toys, sci-fi comics, boys t-shirts & boys PJ’s) and never tried to get me into one of those evil garments (a dress). Once a male relative tried to molest me and thank goodness I was wearing jeans that he wasn’t able to get off me (a dress would’ve given the bastard easier access). …There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a tomboy as i had a lot of fun growing up kicking a footy (aussie rules) with dad, and being a huge sci-fi fan & Trekkie. I was pretty useless at everything else but excellent at sport & was a softball captain. All the women in my family have hirsutism and i ended up the hairiest of the lot (i’ve had to shave my face since i was 16). I would’ve hated to have grown up wearing dresses, playing with dolls, and worrying about my appearance (make-up) and worrying about what men think of my looks. What a horrible existence that would’ve been. I’ve worn baggy shirts, flannel shirts & plimsolls all my life and I still love to get dirty & muddy. I grew up believing that God accepted me just the way I am. I was just being myself and wasn’t hurting anyone. Now i see these christians online carrying on about tomboys and so-called gender confusion. I’m glad I never heard any of this crap growing up & was allowed to have a happy childhood. Why aren’t girls allowed to have any fun too? Damn christians always trying to spoil everybody’s fun and trying to force people into narrow boxes!
Very important testimony as the enemy of our souls want people to change their genders and this is causing much confusion in young people today.
Lovely story, gracious God. But let’s not assume that every person who identifies as transgender or experiences gender uncertainty fits the same plot line or needs the same kind of grace.
Hi david — thanks for sharing — can you or I post this on our Facebook forum https://www.facebook.com/groups/Loveserveheal/ — would love to have your audio classes there too!
Please feel free to post your gems there! Thanks!!
You’re welcome to post it in the group, thanks!
Donna & Simone. I was a tomboy growing up too and still am to this day. But this hasn’t affected my identity as a woman. Being a tomboy was a symptom of this woman’s broken relationship with her father, not the cause of her identity confusion. Read about Deborah in Judges 4-5. She did many things that only men were known for doing in her day, but her identity as a woman was secure (4:9). There’s nothing wrong or sinful about being a tomboy.
I know my parents wanted a boy because they already had 2 girls and had a baby boy die at 7 weeks old. But I don’t really think that had anything to do with me being a tomboy. I also have long ring fingers which is supposed to mean you got an excess of male hormone when you were in the womb. My mother and 2 sisters were also tomboys and have hirtsutism but it didn’t stop them getting married (of course they shaved their chins & legs when young but let their leg hair grow now older). My mothers female relatives were all very stocky, strong & hairy (hairy legs, facial hair etc). They were of Scottish & Irish descent: the men in the family were like gorillas and had back & shoulder hair, and the women in the family were hairy like men. I have facial hair, once inch coarse leg & arm hair, thick eyebrows, hair on my fingers, toes & stomach. It’s not a sin, it’s just genetic. Maybe we needed all that hair for warmth back in cold old Scotland LOL!. Some men don’t have much hair and other men are like gorillas. And it’s the same for women. When will the world accept that women have hair, and that there’s nothing wrong with that. Not everyone can look like a supermodel (thank God). Thankfully I was never teased about my thick leg hair growing up (I mostly wore pants but I did wear shorts for Sport). I wasn’t much good at schoolwork but i excelled at sports esp the kicking, throwing, batting kind…it was the only time I was popular as all the girls wanted to be on my team. And I was stronger than other girls. I hate to think I didn’t really have natural sporting ability and it was only caused by having too much male hormone. But they never hormone tested me and said I couldn’t play (I may have had “too much” male hormone but I was still female). I had a lot of fun growing up & got praised for my sporting ability and had no idea God would have a problem with me. Thank God I never went to church as a kid because there are always christians ready to criticise you and try to run your life over any tiny little thing. I knew I’d never marry as I don’t have any maternal feelings (well, except towards cats LOL) and when I saw a childbirth education film at high school I was ready to run out of the room (I wouldn’t go through that if you paid me! ) Plus I’ve had Social Anxiety Disorder all my life so I hardly even talk to people, let alone want to marry anyone. I suppose if God doesn’t accept me because I’m a lifelong tomboy then there’s nothing I can do about it. I don’t want to change who I am for anything. But right now I’m even not sure if there’s a God. I’ve believed in him since I was little but never had a prayer answered or heard from him. I did say the sinner’s prayer a few times but I guess I’m not really born-again…who knows? I tried going to a pentecostal church a few times but all that falling over backwards, talking in tongues etc seemed a bit “out there”. Maybe the problem is I want to go to heaven (& see all my old cats) but I still want to live my own wordly life on Earth (as long as I’m not hurting anyone).
I got sick of christians criticising me. It didn’t matter how good i thought I was they were always nitpicking me like your hair’s too short, you’re not feminine enough, you’re too worldly, you’re too much of a tomboy, etc. It seems with christians that men have to be super masculine and women have to be super feminine and anything in between is an abomination. Thank God I got away from all that crap & came to realise I only have to please myself and who cares what anyone else thinks!
Dear Dave, what is the spiritual purpose of so many young teen age girls afflicted with gender dysphoria? Would love to hear your thoughts. This above testimony is amazing.
The purpose (from the perspective of the kingdom of darkness) is to interfere with God’s commandment that we “go forth, be fruitful and multiply.”